Involving family and friends

Eager to have your family or friends involved in your special day but not quite sure how? Some thought starters below -

Master of ceremonies

The ceremony doesn't have to be delivered by a celebrant. You can opt for a Legals only ceremony. Ask a member of your family, or a friend, to tell your love story instead. I will complete the legal paperwork in the lead up, recite the Monitum and lead you through the official vows on the day, then submitted your paperwork to Births, Deaths & Marriages (BDM) in your state.

Bridal party

People think this one is pretty straight forward. You and your besties up front. But why stick to only those of the same sex supporting you - is your oldest or best friend the opposite sex? Ask them to stand up there with you!

The procession

Walking down the aisle doesn’t have to be the traditional 'father', 'daughter' moment. Involve your mum, grandma, brother, sister or significant someone.

Same sex couples, make your big entrance with your chosen loved one/s then walk down the aisle as a couple.

Alternatively, walk down on your own - it’s completely up to you and what you feel most comfortable doing. It’s your big day after all!

Tip: make sure the aisle is wide enough to accommodate the procession when you stand side-by-side, this ensures that there isn't an awkward bottleneck on the day.

Flowers

Is someone in your family a budding florist, or an actual one? Why not ask them to create your bouquet or lapel pins as their gift to you.

Music

Do you have musical family or friends? Have them perform an acoustic version of your favourite song for the procession or sing during the certificate signing. This can provide a unique and memorable touch for your special day.

Giving away

Giving away was a role traditionally completed by the father of the bride but this is the 21st century people! Involve your parents or guest by asking them to bless your marriage instead.

Poems & readings

Again this doesn’t have to be limited to reading or poem in the traditional sense. Ask you siblings or closest friends to write a blessing for your marriage or read you their favourite love quote. Advice on choosing the best poem or reading for your ceremony can be found here.

Signing of the register

This role doesn’t have to be completed by your best man and maid/matron of honour, as long as the person is 18+ and has witnessed your ceremony they can sign the official paperwork. Involve both your mums, grandparents or do a ballot on the day.

Ritual

You could also choose to include a ritual in your ceremony. Ask me how.

Happy planning!

K x